What’s with Her Girl Friends?!

Your girlfriend tells you, “I’m going out with my friends,” and you know that usually means she’ll be occupied for several hours or even half a day. Typically you might assume that all they do during that time is shop, spend money, and gossip. Well they do, but although you may not understand what they get up to, you need to know why her friends will always be a part her life.

Women consider their girlfriends to be more than just people to hang out with. Some have specific roles to play in their personal development and their lives. That’s not to say that each of her friends automatically falls in one of the following categories, but here’s a general guide to give you an insight on the ladies in her social network.

The ’Since Forever’ friend
You were probably introduced to her in the early stages of your relationship. They’ve known each other since they were kids, grown up together and continued to stay in touch throughout the years. More importantly, they’d still update each other about their lives even if they don’t get to meet up as often. Having a friend who knows about her in such details is a strong reminder of her past and how she got to be the person she is today. The ‘Since Forever’ friends are most likely the ones who keep her grounded and humble.

The Colleague
In any workplace, a woman is normally friends with at least one other woman there, especially those in the same department or in a similar position level. Sometimes they’d even spend time together outside office hours, as if they don’t see enough of each other every single day. Being in the same circumstance forges a sense of alliance among women, it helps to have someone who knows exactly what she’s going through at work and can sympathize with her when she wants to bitch.

The ‘Nothing Alike’ friend
This one seems like she has nothing in common with your flawless girlfriend. It makes you wonder what made them click in the first place! The ‘Opposites Attract’ syndrome is possibly what enabled them to maintain the friendship. A friend who thinks and behaves differently from her can provide a new set of opinions and allows her to consider certain situations from a different perspective. Besides it’s refreshing to spend time with someone with an alternative life than yours!

The New friend
Noticed how the latest participant at her Pilates class soon becomes her shopping buddy? No, it’s not a kind of ‘female social obligation’. Most women enjoy the process of getting to know a new friend because they get a morale boost out of telling each other all the wonderful things about themselves, without having to get too specific about the not-so-wonderful bits. Especially with a younger new friend who can use some mature advice and opinions. It’s like an ego trip masked with good intentions.

The ‘Surface’ friend
They’re friendly enough but not to the point of sharing secrets or having a giggly get-together. These women have a wealth of knowledge and/ or experience in something your girlfriend lacks. It could be a fitness freak who suggests the most effective diet for her or someone who sheds valuable advice regarding her corporate career. Her hairdresser and beautician fall under this category too. Women know they can’t be great at everything so having someone who can help them believe that they are, is the next best thing.

~ Muneerah B.