How do you know you truly love someone?

How do you know that your girlfriend is in love with you? If she is serious about you, she will want to see you regularly. She will keep her Saturday nights and holiday free for you. She will cook for you and give you gifts.

How do you know you are in love? You think obsessively about her all the time. You think she is the most wonderful person in the world. You long to see her.

However, if you want to know if what you're feeling is the real deal, I suggest that you ask yourself these questions:

• 'Would I be willing to let her go if I believed it was the best thing for her?'
• 'Am I willing to wait for her if she is not ready to have sex?'
• 'Would I feel the same way even if she becomes less perfect, e.g. gain weight or get sick?'
• 'Am I willing to sacrifice my dreams to allow her dreams to come true?'
• 'Do I respect and admire her for who she is ? (not what she has)'
• 'I cannot imagine a life without her'
• 'Can I see my future with her?'
• 'Do I care about her more than I care about myself?'

If you answered 'No' to any of these questions, think about why you gave that answer. Is it a lack of trust? Is it because you're afraid? Is it selfishness? Do you need more time to get to know each other?

If you answered 'Yes' to all of these questions, wow, you feel very strongly about this person. It sounds like you're in love!

~Sam Choo
The WOW Coach
sam@wow-her.com.sg