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 How
to be Confident
Anyone can learn how to be confident when dating
girls. If you are shy, know the reasons. If you know the
root of the problem, you will resolve the problem quickly.
Here are some reasons why some men are shy about dating:
- Fear of rejection
- Low self-esteem
- Not good at making conversation
- Clueless about how to handle the opposite sex
Fear of Rejection
Rejection is a number game. We can't expect everyone to
like us. Go for a group date with your more confident male
friends. Their confidence will rub off on you. You will
act more confidently in a group - it's a herd instinct.
If you are lost for words, your friends will back you up.
Low Self-esteem
If you want to be confident, you have to feel good about
who you are and the way you look. You may not be very good
looking. Look is not everything. Even the Beast gets his
Beauty. I don't think Mike Jagger is handsome either. Accept
what nature has given you, but there are things you can
change. If you are overweight, start losing some. If you
are out of shape, go to the gym. If your dress sense is
dated, sign up for a grooming course and go buy a few new
clothes.
If you want others to like you, you have to like yourself
first.
Not Good at Making Conversation
You may be shy because you are not good at making conversation.
All you need is to start practicing. Smile at people you
meet at the lift. Take every opportunity to chat with women
anywhere e.g. over the store counter, at social events.
People like to be talked to. Once you get used to talking
with new people, chatting will come naturally.
Clueless about how to handle the opposite sex
Probably there are certain subjects in life that our parents
or teachers never taught us, e.g. how to woo a girl and
conduct ourselves in the presence of the women. Jimmy is
one clueless and exasperated guy. He said, "Just talk
- yeah right! I can't talk - I have nothing to say. And
the typical questions 'where are you from?', etc, only get
you so far…"
The solution? Babies don't learn to walk overnight. Dating
is a skill that anyone can learn and master. Just keep trying.
If it doesn't work, change your approach until you find
one that works. Ask the experts in the forum. I'm here for
you. Email me at sam@wow-her.com.sg
~Sam Choo
The WOW Coach
sam@wow-her.com.sg
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