Topics to Aviod when Talkng to Single Women

What Not to Say On A Date
A surefire way to offend your date and end your future dating engagement is to talk about taboo subjects. In short, avoid talking about things that will annoy or bore her. Here are some topics you should avoid:

Don't comment about her personal style or habits such as her dressing style, the smell of her perfumes and colognes, her lifestyle or her driving habits. Don't criticize especially on the first date. In a social party, never comment negatively about anyone else. If you visit her house, don't comment about how messy her house is.

Avoid jargon or technical terms. You may be passionate and capable of talking non-stop about your hobby, but she has no clue what you are talking about. Don't bore her to death with the details. Women hate jargon of the alien types. She may think either you are over dedicated to your job or you are trying to make her feel stupid.

Qoo shared her bad experience in the forum:
"There's this guy I dated sometime ago, he is good looking and polite. I thought I had a good catch initially. As we talked more, I find that he is only keen to chat about things that he is interested and he goes on and on about it... Like he will ask me what are the software I know, after I answered him, he will just brag endlessly about the software he knows... The impression I got is that he shows no interest in me as a person and is more interested in glorifying himself. Its really boring dating him I would rather go home and sleep!"

Don't be too eager to tell her your personal secrets, especially on the first few dates. She may be flattered but she will probably think you are not capable of keeping secrets.

Don't talk about your ex-girlfriend. The more you talk about her, the more you reveal your flaws. You should be giving the impression that you have sever emotional ties with your past relationships and you are ready to move on with a clean slate.

Don't talk about controversial subjects such as politics and religion. You don't want to start an argument on who's right or wrong. You could win the battle and lose the war (or is it the other way?).

Don't talk about people she doesn't know - whether it is someone you admire or hate. If you admire the person, she wonders if she is being compared with that person. If you complaint about the person you hate, she sees how bitter you can be.

Don't complain. Don't whine about what a *itch your ex-girlfriend was, or how lousy your job is, and the things you hate.

Don't talk about your bad travel experiences. Complaints emit negative energy. That's a turnoff. A date should be a positive experience for both of you. Women are attracted to positive energy.

Don't brag about your accomplishments. She will think that you are arrogant or feel that she cannot meet up to your standards.

Don't talk about health problems, especially at the dinner table. They are not necessarily interesting to a woman. You would not want to spoil her appetite with gory description of pain, urinary functions and the anatomy.

Don't talk about sports. Most women don't like sports as much as men do. Don't talk about cars. Boys play with toy cars, but girls play with dolls.

Don't bore her with details of the daily stuff you do, such as how long you take for your showers, how you prepare your breakfast, or a long review of your favourite television programme.

Gill says, "If a guy only talked about himself during the date and didn't ask about me, then I know this isn't a guy for me."

Don't talk about your favourite sexual position. She may think you are a pervert.

So here you have it - topics that could start a fight or end a relationship. You have been warned.


~Sam Choo
The WOW Coach
sam@wow-her.com.sg